The wildest part of marriage so far is being able to have sex! Ann and I are really getting the hang of it and it keeps getting better. I don’t have any great sex or marriage advice as of yet. I’m still a beginner.
Our wedding night was sure interesting. Ann’s parents paid for us to stay in the honeymoon cabin on a hill above Sylvan Lake. It was the perfect spot for us. Pretty much as soon as we got there we both wanted to get it on. I decided to start the fire in the honeymoon cabin, thinking that it would set the mood, while Ann changed into something that I shall not describe. I started a good fire and turned down the lights. Having sex is actually kind of tricky and awkward. It took us a little while but just about the time we started making some progress Ann asked, “Why is there so much smoke in the room?” I looked over and saw black smoke billowing out of the fireplace over the mantle and filling the room. Immediately I realized that I had failed to open the hatch. I ran over to try and open the hatch but it was now too hot to touch, especially when you’re naked. Suddenly the smoke alarm started going off, which sounded more like a siren on a battle ship than a normal smoke detector. Ann hopped up, opened our front door, and then started waving a bathroom towel to get the smoke out. I grabbed the fire extinguisher off the wall. Oddly, I had never used one before. I blasted the fireplace from about two feet away, blowing ash and foam around the room. What a funny moment it was for both of us, flailing in our birthday suits, trying to get the fire alarm off before the hotel staff came to investigate.
From there it only got better!
Seriously, sex is so much fun. We have both practically fallen out of bed laughing so hard together. It’s been a wonderful journey. I can’t figure out why so few Christians told us how amazing this all was going to be. For those of you out there who are thinking about getting married, sex with your spouse is something to really look forward to.
I am so glad that God created sex. There is no doubt in my mind why God made sex. He made it to join two people together, and that it does! We love it! Thanks be to God.
We truly live in a time when every avenue of media is being used to market to our desire for sex. It’s hard to keep your mind from wandering, and it’s easy to corrupt your imagination. Ann and I are a team in the battle. We must fight to desire only each other. This means that we must carefully guard what we watch. God doesn’t want us to guard our hearts to dampen our joy, but rather to fulfill it. I am realizing for myself that God wants us to have the best sex life ever. He wants us to experience what He does. He wants us to have what He has – an intimate ally.
The reason it was not good that man should be alone in the Garden is because God is not alone. He is somehow three and one. The Trinity is the most intimate of fellowships, and Adam and Eve were made in the likeness of the Trinity. According to the Bible a man and a woman actually become one when they consummate their marriage. This is also similar to the Trinity. As every couple grows in love together, eventually they desire to bring others into it. And then they have a baby that looks just like them. That’s exactly what God did. God desired to have children who were like Him, who could join His love story. Someday Ann and I will get to do this. We are looking forward to it.
God wants Ann and I to be the most intimate of lovers. He knows that we will be able to better fulfill our purpose if we are bonded together. I feel Him doing this through our sexuality. Having sex has become a deep physical, spiritual, and relational need for both of us. It brings us together, and glues us together.
I can’t say it enough – we really enjoy this wonderful gift. It’s exciting every time. For those who are out there waiting till marriage, I applaud you; don’t get discouraged. If you have sex outside marriage you are dampening your ability to bond with your spouse. Ann and I don’t feel like we have tons of baggage, but we do wish that we came into marriage without any pre-marital sexual experiences. Some things that God made He gave a specific context for. A fire is a wonderful thing in the fireplace but a destructive thing if it’s in the middle of a well furnished room. Being pure in this day and age is hard both in marriage and out. It’s a battle! Don’t give up! The sex and the intimacy that you will experience on the other side of marriage is so worth it. Believe me. We are experiencing it.
